5 Ways to Improve Communication in a Relationship

Good communication is the key to healthy relationship. It sounds cliché but it’s true. For you to have a healthy relationship, you need to talk openly and be a good listener which in turn improves your problem solving skills and you can solve a conflict easily.


Here are a few ways which will help you communicate better

Be an active listener

“The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply.” -Anonymous

Communication isn't just about talking, it's about being an active listener. Knowing that you are being heard helps one feel understood and connected. Active listening is being fully present, you acknowledge what your partner is expressing and respond with empathy. Through active listening you are less likely to jump in with a "quick fix" when the other person really just wants to be heard.

Try out this activity for active listening: 

Person X gets 15 minutes to talk about their day, while person Y is listening actively and with a genuine interest. Person Y is allowed to ask clarifying questions but should not interrupt person X. 

After person X’s 15 minutes are up, person Y gets to talk for 15 minutes as well, while the same listening rules apply to person X. You will find that 15 minutes is a very long time to listen. 

You will be surprised at how much you learn about each other simply by listening and how it adds value to the quality of your relationship and your communication.

Do not assume


Assumptions lead to misunderstandings. If you're holding up on your feelings and assuming your partner will read your mind, it can give rise to more conflicts. Never assume what they are thinking, reach out and communicate. When in doubt communicate openly with your partner. 

 Listen to each other and clarify those doubts using open ended questions. 

Ask open ended questions

Open ended questions gives way to open communication, an opportunity to learn more about each other. Through open ended question you are not trying to predict or instruct the outcome but want an authentic response from your partner. Open ended questions allow you to get more information and understand the perspective of other person better. 



Pay attention to nonverbal cues

Communication not only includes words but also our body language. Our tone and our attitude give away a lot more than just the words. Your nonverbal behaviors which include the gestures you make, your posture, your tone of voice, how much eye contact you make are forms of communication. 

Nonverbal cues can be misinterpreted as well, when in doubt communicate. Ask the person how are they feeling. Expressing and sharing your feelings are important aspect of communication in a relationship

Communication is a two way street



Notice your communication pattern in relationship, as you talk to your partner how many times you use 'I', 'You' or 'We'. If the communication is only about one persona then it's not really communication. Communication is a two way street where both partners express each other.

Listen to your partner and use open ended questions to understand each other's perspective. 

Both people need to feel heard and be able to share what’s on their mind.

How do you communicate with your partner? Did you find these techniques useful? Do let us know!






Sanjina Bose

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